Identity crisis is a state of being uncertain about your true self; it may happen at any stage of your life depending on the cause. Identity crisis has been described as a “personal psychosocial conflict especially in adolescence that involves confusion about one’s social role and often a sense of loss of continuity to one’s personality.” (Merriam-Webster’s collegiate dictionary, 1999).
For many of us, growing up is a process of moving from one stage to another. Which can often mean coming across obstacles during the journey of transformation from childhood to adulthood. This is why when we fail to face these obstacles before moving on to the next stage in life, it can create an unresolved conflict within us. Which may cause difficulties for us to find ourselves.
Individuals’ suffering from identity crisis do not know who they are or what they believe in. They always seek approval from their families and friends because they believe that they are not good enough. Because of their inability to make choices in life, they end up falling into the wrong crowds during adolescents. And may end up getting involved in negative activities such as alcohol and drug abuse. With a belief that getting into this style of behavior will promote recognition in society or will make them superior.
Due to the stressful times we live in. It is common for many of us to go through some level of identity crisis. This can be brought on by a number of things in our past or present. Things like being bullied at school as a child, feeling isolated at university or collage, losing a close relative etc. Immediately when the thought “why me?” comes to mind, that is where the suffering begins. Unless such thought has reasonable answers.
As human being we also tend to focus more on the negative than positive things in life. Without realizing the harm that we cause on our psychology. There is nothing difficult than living in the world without knowing your purpose in life, and it all begins from within. “The purpose of life is the expansion of happiness.” But how are you going to be happy if you are not sure about yourself?
My dear sisters never lose yourselves because of unnecessary doubts. It does not matter what the next person says or thinks about you. What matters is how you view yourself. The person in the mirror is your true reflection. The more you love that person unconditionally, the more love you will receive from the universe.