Growing up I was always scared to lose my virginity to a tampon. When I started my period I was given the “you are becoming a woman” speech. But apart from that there was not much I was told about how my body worked. For a long time I was even confused about why we bleed every month and what to expect in the coming months and years of growing into a woman.
Later I realized that my friends and I all had the same fear. As young women and we didn’t feel we could ask anyone. We were so embarrassed that we didn’t even know where to start. That’s what it was like for me with tampons too. Whilst my mom and I had spoken about sex, I didn’t now how it worked exactly.
Having sex, to me, was sticking anything up your vagina, tampons included. Which is why for a very long time, I stayed away from them. It wasn’t until I got older and started to ask questions, did I realize that tampons wouldn’t break my virginity. This was however after years of wearing uncomfortable pads that made noise when I walked. This was before pads became thin and more comfortable and practical.
Nowadays, I like knowing that if I want to go swimming or want to do sports I can wear a tampon. And even though most of the time I can be found wearing a pad, because I prefer them, tampons have opened up a big window of opportunity. And I know for sure that when my future daughter, nieces and goddaughters ask, I can tell them with confidence that tampons don’t make you lose your virginity. So ladies, what were some of your fears when you started your periods?