Communication is simply the act of transferring information from one place to another; at least this is the definition we all learnt from school. In our relationships we need to transfer information by having conversations. Conversations that will not harm our relationships but rather help them grow. There are times that we say things that we do not really mean because we are hurting. So how do we have difficult conversations without harming our relationships?
Truth is, to have a good relationship you need to be communicating well with your partner or whoever you are in a relationship with. Here are several ways that we can ensure that we communicate well with our partners.
- We can start by showing our partners that we are listening to what they are saying. This can be achieved by looking them in their eyes when they are talking and not watching TV or looking at our phones.
- Responding to your partner when they are speaking. Sometimes a simple “Okay” when someone is talking makes a big difference. It’s an assurance that you are listening to your partner and not day dreaming.
- If you are angry it is important to cool off first to ensure that you or your partner don’t shout at each other and your relationship. One of the biggest mistakes we make is that we try and speak when we are both angry. Fact is neither of you are listening and you end up saying things that you regret.
Try and keep in mind that our partners cannot read our minds if we do not communicate about what we are thinking. Which is why it is so important to always communicate, about the good things and the bad.