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Anal sex: What is it?

Anal sex is when a penis or other object are inserted into a you or your partner’s anus. Like any other sexual behavior, some people find it very pleasurable and others don’t. Some people are curious about it, and others know it’s not something they’re comfortable with.

What is masturbation?

We have spoken a lot about masturbation on the site but how many of us know what masturbation actually is? Masturbation is when you touch your body for sexual pleasure. People masturbate in lots of different ways. How you masturbate depends on how comfortable you are with yourself, and what makes your body feel good.

Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?

If you are pregnant, you may ask yourself whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy. The answer is YES. Ladies, it is indeed safe to have sex for most women during pregnancy. However your midwife and/or doctor may tell you if it’s a no go area. If the health practitioner approves you can do what you feel is comfortable and feels good for you. Because despite what some people think, you don’t hurt your baby by having sex when pregnant.

Waxing down there: for you or for him?

I never understood people who waxed down there. The idea of putting hot wax, or even a razor so close to your vagina just scared me. “Why do that to yourself?” I thought. Until I had my first serious boyfriend who happened to liked me waxed. Although I was completely against it, I tried it. “What’s the worst that could happen?” I told myself.

Can using a tampon break your virginity?

Growing up I was always scared to lose my virginity to a tampon. When I started my period I was given the “you are becoming a woman” speech. But apart from that there was not much I was told about how my body worked. For a long time I was even confused about why we bleed every month and what to expect in the coming months and years of growing into a woman.

Having a healthy sex life

Your health does not always apply to what you eat or how much you workout in a week. It also applies to your sex life as well. Everyday men and women enter into relationships looking for happiness, love, respect, care and support. But what about good and healthy sex? Which means having those sometimes awkward conversations with your partner that help you know each other more intimately. Not sure where to start? Here are some starting points for discussions you can have with your partner. These can make sure you are both comfortable, safe and both enjoy yourselves when having sex.

Sexual fantasies

We have all had a sexual fantasy or two at some point in our lives. However, sexual fantasies are still seen as something dirty and out of the norm. In most cases, people think that sexual fantasies are something that should not even be discussed in relationships. Well, I’m here to tell you that you should discuss them.

Coming out

In a country like South Africa, which has some of the most progressive laws on the continent, it seems insane that people who are different are still mistreated. Whether you are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, asexual or anything else that is regarded as not-normal, life can be struggle. Which is why something like disclosing your sexual preference or sexual identity can feel overwhelming. Which is why this article is not about telling you how to come out. Instead it is about telling you that it is okay to come out. That just because you are different, it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.

Is it normal to have pain during sex?

As women, and even men, it is normal to experience some level of discomfort when we start having sex. However having pain frequently during sex is not normal. This can be a sign that you need to see a doctor or change things up. If you are experiencing frequent pain during sex I would suggest you first refrain from having sexual intercourse for a while. This allows you work on building some intimacy between you and your partner.

3 ways to be intimate without sex

When we start exploring our sexuality as young adults one of the first things that most of us think is that sex is the only kind of intimacy there is. However intimacy is not just about sex and is about so much more. Whilst there are pressures that come from our peers and everything on TV, newspapers and magazines, it is important to know that sex is not the end all and be all. In fact if you ask me, it is the least intimate thing you can do with a person.