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Hi Girlz, my name is Themba and I am a final year law student. I like playing soccer, going out with my friends and reading. Have some questions to ask, leave me a message and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible 😛

Guy problems

Hy Themba…am a 21 yr old black girl who has this huge crush on a white guy…hiz Afrikanner…am scared to tel him plus am not that pretty…how do i get him to notice it without me saying it in words?

  • Lebo

Hi Lebo. Thank you so much for writing to me. Firstly, as someone who’s dated girls from different races I can tell you that race is not something that should stop you from telling someone how you feel. We are all human and if this guy likes you then your skin colour and looks won’t matter. I would suggest first however that you learn to see yourself as worthy. They say “you accept the love you think you deserve” and if you don’t think you are beautiful and worthy of love then no one else will. Confidence is key, no matter what he says, after all we always regret the things we didn’t do. Good luck, and remember that you are enough.

Hi bhut’Themba

Hi bhut’Themba . there was this certain guy who used to hit on me while I was still in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend whom I left for that guy. and after that , he said I took my time and I caused too much drama in his life , so he would rather date his ex than me . that was after I left my boyfriend and right when I was ready to be with him . did he play me? why did he choose to go back to his ex? what did i do from here?

  • Ophelia

Hi Ophelia. Honestly, I think you might have gotten played my sister. This guy is obviously interested in playing games rather than being in a relationship otherwise he would have given you two a chance. I would suggest telling him how his change in mind affects you and also telling him that if he doesn’t want to be with you, then you will not bother him again and stick to that promise for yourself and for him. Sometimes people just want to play games and other times the timing is not right. Stay strong my sister.

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