As women, and even men, it is normal to experience some level of discomfort when we start having sex. However having pain frequently during sex is not normal. This can be a sign that you need to see a doctor or change things up. If you are experiencing frequent pain during sex I would suggest you first refrain from having sexual intercourse for a while. This allows you work on building some intimacy between you and your partner.
This is to help establish whether the pain is because of lack of communication or something else.Especially as some of us find it difficult to tell our partners when we are experiencing pain or are uncomfortable. However, don’t panic just yet as most conditions that cause painful intercourse are easily treatable.
Tips to treat painful sex:
- Lack of lubrication: Whilst we often don’t talk about it, not being properly lubricated during sex can be extremely painful and uncomfortable. Try some water-based lubricant and see if it makes a big difference. However steer clear of oil-based lubricant as it can cause the condom to tear.
- Communicate: This can feel awkward at first but talking to your partner can be the difference between painful sex and great sex. After all, if you don’t speak up, your partner wont know what is happening and wont be able to change anything.
- Try different positions: Sometimes changing up the positions you do can make a huge difference. So talk to to your partner about trying some other positions that are more comfortable.
- Do not rush things: Foreplay is a an important part of sex that we often forget. Your body actually needs time to lift the uterus and allow for the vagina to expand. So encourage your partner to play with your vagina first and kiss you before sex. This gives your body time to prepare for whats to come.
Once you have tried these and nothing helps, it may be time to speak to a specialist and get help. After all, sex is supposed to be enjoyable and not painful.